Marriage Minded Christian Singles Over 40: Implement These Two Things
Why Focus on Christian Singles over 40?
Many marriage-minded Christian singles over 40 who have been actively searching for their future Christian wife or husband have become extremely frustrated. And hopelessness has begun to weaken their faith that their partner in life will ever appear. They've prayed, searched, and have been patient. What more could they do? And, would it be worth it? If you are one of the many frustrated over 40 Christian singles in the world, there are two things that we want to stress to you before inviting you to give our totally free Christian dating "service" a try.
Marriage Minded Christian Singles: Don't Pray Just for Yourself!
Although you may be the only over 40 Christian single in your circles, many other over 40 Christian singles are in the same situation in their circles. For each person, it's like he or she is alone in the battle for what should be a simple thing in life: meet your life partner. The fact is, you are NOT alone, but often your prayers are only for yourself, for God to send the man or woman into your life who is to be your wife or husband. While there's nothing wrong with that, there is something very important that is missing: prayer for those who are in the same boat as you are, because God not only sees you, He sees and is concerned about ALL of His servants who are found in what can be a miserable situation. There is a demonically inspired, worldwide problem of Christian singleness, which is taking its toll on the 40 and over population.
The very first thing that you can immediately implement is prayer for the whole. This is storming heaven with the request for the Lord to directly intervene to form the husband and wife teams that are in accordance with His perfect will. Is this advice scriptural? It most certainly is, because it is acting within the love of God that should dwell in the believer for others who are in need of God's help. We are not just concerned about our own personal happiness. We are concerned about the personal happiness of other believers in Jesus as well as morally decent people who are seeking their future spouse. Jesus commanded Christians to love one another (St. John 13:34). If we love them, we want what is good for them. We want what God wants for them. Therefore we pray for them. Let us remember that Jesus' commandment to love one another was just that--a commandment, not a suggestion. Keeping the commandments of God is obedience; and obedience brings the love (blessing) of God (St. John 15:7, 10).
Stupid Behavior Among Christian Singles Over 40
We know it sounds harsh to use the word "stupid"; however, it perfectly describes the silly behavior we've observed in even those Christian singles who claim they are marriage minded. Foolish behavior is NOT of God. His Word says, "God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a SOUND (healthy) MIND" (2 Tim. 1:7). A large part of the reason why the problem of Christian singleness continues to persist is due to silly and idiotic behavior on the part of some "marriage minded" Christian singles. How many times have they thrown away a God given opportunity to foster a relationship leading to marriage? They would do well to examine themselves by asking, "Do I really want to be married or am I simply saying such a thing to appear 'normal' to others?" The vast majority of Christian singles over 40 either have run into people with this kind of stupid behavior, or they are among the group of singles whose actions loudly say they don't want to ever marry, despite the words that come out of their mouth.
So, what are some of the manifestations of a less-than-sound mind? Below is a partial list that we've compiled down through the years:
1. Unwillingness to interact with a potential candidate except through social media such as FaceBook. That is ridiculous! You say that you want a husband or wife, but when a candidate comes along, you can't take time out for real and personal emails, letters, or phone calls. Why not just have a virtual marriage to anyone on FB instead of trying to foster real relationships?
2. Some Christian singles over 40 have ridiculous requirements and expectations. Among the ones we've encountered are guys who can't tolerate a woman who's even one year older than they are, and women who can't tolerate a man who's an inch shorter than they are.
3. A good number of Christian men are literally terrified to approach a Christian lady, particularly if she is very attractive. Some are afraid even if she has shown some interest. If she is truly Christian, she's not going to be rude, so why is there so much fear? The fearful neither attain what they want in life nor are they useful to God. They're too busy being afraid when they should be acting in faith.
4. The previous point leads to the problem of a sheer lack of faith. Many Christian singles, like singles who are not professing faith in Jesus, have to see everything laid out, the whole plan, before they can believe that something is the will of God. It just might be that your Christian husband or wife is not in your area. He or she might not even be in your country. So, if that person is half way around the world, God is to weak to bring the two of you together? If that's how you think, why bother to even pray? People in the world tend to have more faith than that. It would be wise to stop trying to figure out every detail and just let God have His way. Respond to what's right before your eyes, instead of trying to do the thinking and planning for God.
5. Some people behave as though they have the conversational skills of a three year old. Of course, many three year olds know how to converse better than many of the over 40 Christian singles we've encountered. Why are you trying to start a relationship and you don't have basic conversational skills? A series of small-talk chats does not work to get to know someone. Communicating with someone once every fews weeks also does not work. Hello! We can't even have a relationship with God if we won't talk to Him!
This list could go on, but we will end it here. Christian singles over 40 who are behaving sensibly, don't waste your time with someone who isn't, because he or she is playing games, is unstable in his or her thinking, or has no clue what he or she wants in life. Let us pray for God to deal with them regarding how they are sabotaging themselves. However, let us not waste time. Let us move on to someone who knows how to converse, has a stable mind, knows what he or she wants in life, and exercises faith in God in the search for a future husband or wife.
A Very Simple and Totally Free Christian Dating Service
No registration required! You simply send us a brief description of yourself and what you're looking for in a mate, along with your email address. If it meets our requirements (see below), we will publish your profile along with your contact email for candidates to contact you directly.
NOTE: Although we NEVER show email addresses for feedback and questions on any of our other content on this site, we will show your email address on this particular article for Christian dating. Why? Because we are simply providing a platform for singles over 40 to post a brief profile, but we stay completely out of any and all communication between parties. You must understand that when an email address is displayed on any website, it can, and it WILL be easily picked up by robots, causing you to receive spam. Therefore, we strongly urge you to use a "throw-away" email address that you can get rid of when you become tired of receiving spam. We also expect you to know how to stay safe when dealing with strangers. If you don't understand this, we don't recommend that you use this or any other site!
Marriage Minded Christian Singles Over 40: The Requirements
1. If you have not repented of your sins, and received the Son of God, Christ, as your Savior, you are not a Christain. In your message to us, clearly state whether you have received Jesus as Lord. If we don't see this statement, we will not post the profile.
2. If you reject the divinity of Jesus, you are not a Bible-believing Christian. In your message, clearly state that Jesus is God, one of the three persons of the Holy Trinity. If we don't see this statement, we will not post your profile/message.
3. If you are not truly marriage-minded, please do not waste the time of other people who are! You must state in your profile that you are genuinely seeking to meet your furture Christian wife or husband. If we don't see this statement, we will not post your message.
4. Please clearly state to which ethnic group/s you are TRULY open. Again, we don't want people to waste their time contacting someone who will not date a member of their ethnicity. If you are GENUINELY open to ALL ethnic groups, you may state that. If you are NOT truly open, please do NOT state what is not true. You must state your ethnic preferences in order for your message to be approved.
5. Please keep in mind that NOT everyone believes in using FaceBook. More and more people are getting tired of being told that the only way to "meet up" with you is on FaceBook. If you're too busy to correspond, you're probably to busy to be looking for a wife or husband. Please state in your message to us that you do not require correspondence through FaceBook or any other social media. If we don't see such a statement, we will not post your profile.
We Wish You the Best, Marriage Minded Christian Singles Over 40!
Remember that God will not do all the work. You will do your part, or you might miss a blessing that will never come your way again. Pray for God's guidance in the formation of a new friendship and romance. But, watch the signs as well. If things are not progressing at a steady and "normal" rate, you might want to consider moving on so that that person, who might not truly desire a wife or husband, does not waste your valuable time.
Because we are using our regular messaging system to post profiles, only ten messages on any given article can be awaiting approval at any given time. Therefore, we will be keeping a close watch on profile messages sent for approval. Those that are approved will quickly be added to the site to reopen the thread for more. Depending on the number of profiles we receive, we might find it necessary to delete messages older than 120 days.
Please do NOT send your address or phone number. We will NOT publish them. If you decide, after very careful consideration, to give someone your personal contact information (beyond an email address), you must do so on your own, at your own risk. Comments that are not specific message profiles for Christian dating will not be approved. We will post only the message profiles of marriage mined Christian singles.
Sample Christian Dating Message Profile
Hi Christian sisters, my name is John Doe. I am 40 years old, never before married, and no children. I received Jesus as my Lord and Savior at the age of 22. I believe in the divinity of Jesus according to biblical scripture, and I worship Him, because He is God. I am marriage-minded, and truly seeking my future Christian wife, and am fully willing to communicate outside of FaceBook and any other social media by writing personal emails, or talking by phone. I am willing to exchange photos if we find that there's a possibility that we could be compatible. I am truly and fully open to dating ALL ethnic groups. Hope to receive your email soon!
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Comments/Comentarios:
Hi brothers in Christ. I'm 44, no children, single, am told I'm attractive (willing to send photos). I have accepted Jesus as my Savior and believe in the divinity of the Son of God. I am marriage-minded, genuinely open to all ethnic groups, and I will NOT ask you to meet up with me on FaceBook or any other social media. I believe in taking time to communicate and build friendship, especially one that could lead to more. My email is: aemthan2015@gmail.com
by: aemt
Posted on 2015-06-04 21:44:13
Hi Christian Family,I am 44, single, no kids and never married. I received Jesus Christ as lord and savior when I was in my adolescent years. I have been baptized both through being sprinkled when young and submerged when older. I believe in holy trinity, that Jesus Christ, God and Holy Spirit is the same. I am looking for my future husband for marriage. I am open to all ethnic groups. I do not require contact through Facebook or other social media. I will be happy to send photos upon request and look forward to hearing from you.
by: Mara
Posted on 2015-11-18 13:03:27
Hello Christian Bothers,I am 53 years young and I am seeking a Christian male friend initially to enjoy life and knows how to love, respect and appreciate a like-minded woman. Anything worth having takes time. Yes, I would like to get married eventually but only to the one the Lord has placed on my path. I\m not into games and I\m not a social media fan. I\m a bit old school. Yes, I do love the Lord and I know how to seek my Father for guidance, forgiveness, love, strength, and His continual presence in my life. Photos will be shared once we determine if we can move forward. Looking forward to your response.
by: Denise
Posted on 2016-11-27 07:16:07
Hi,I\m Kelli & I received Christ as my Savior. I\m marriage minded & I\m not even on Facebook so I would be interested in communicating through email & phone. I\m open to any race. I love country living & animals. Willing to relocate for my future husband.
by: Kelli
Posted on 2018-01-05 00:09:13
Hi, my name is Giselle. I\m a Cuban-American born in Cuba but raised in Maryland. I\m 47 years old. I accepted Jesus as my savior about 10 years ago. I have 2 children, 1 daughter who is 21 and married and my other daughter who is 7 who lives with me. I also have a love for animals and nature. I always pray to God to guide me and to help me do His will. I have done many mistakes in the past but now have a strong desire and conviction to follow Jesus and trust Him. I am looking for my future husband who also loves the Lord and puts Him first in his life. Tambien hablo Espanol. Yo Naci en Cuba pero creci en Maryland. Yo accepte el Senor hace 10 anos atras y oro que el Senor me guia para hacer su voluntar. Yo tengo una hija de 21 Anos y otra de 7. Yo busco mi futuro Esposo si es la voluntar de Dios. Dice la palabra de Dios, si tu busca Dios y su Reino primero con todo tu corazon, todas estas cosas serán añadidas. My email is REMOVED BY MODERATOR
by: Giselle Maria Diaz
Posted on 2018-01-08 08:41:25
Good day, my name is Bev Johnston from south Africa. I am a born again follower of Jesus Christ for twenty years.I believe in The Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I am 40 years old, have one four year old daughter, never been married.I don't care much for Facebook and social media.I'm interested in Caucasian males. God bless
by: Not given
Posted on 2018-05-02 07:11:22
Hi everybody. My name is Anoline & I\m from W/Cape South Africa. I have received Jesus Christ as my personal savior & redeemer. I believe in the Three Trinity & thus i can\t exist without either one.I\m a 52 year old divorced mom of three children,who is honestly seeking to meet my future christian husband by the grace & help of God. I am genuinely open to all ethnic groups& do not require to correspond through facebook. I would however if allowed place my e-mail address, should anyone be interested contacting me. (Email address removed) Am looking forward hearing from you, God bless. Thank you team for allowing me to sample my profile message.
by: anoline
Posted on 2018-05-24 03:17:38
Hi my name is Linda, I am 59 and I have been washed in the blood of the Lamb.I am on fb, but definitely prefer face to face, phone and or email.I desire a God fearing husband.
by: Linda
Posted on 2018-05-28 15:27:51
Good day my brothers in Christ. I am Joyce 49 love Jesus Christcand I am a born again Christian and marriage minded to right man ,am very physically fit as way of life and take good care of my health with zero ailments never been married no children (but want some)financially secure and prefer the same in my mate. I am open to all ethnicities (except Indians from India or Arabs)with preference to African American. Willing to exchange photo if I am attracted to your photo so please be open to provide one initially.
by: Joyce
Posted on 2018-05-28 23:38:49
HI,I\\m a divorced woman after 30 years. Looking for a good stable relationship. My 2 daughters are grown I have 4 grandchildren. One already went to heaven. Need a good hearted and good looking carChristian Man.
by: Dawn Macey
Posted on 2018-08-16 14:06:21
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